This morning I had a thought about love.  I thought about how true love is not just a feeling but an act of the will. I thought back to the ideas that there are 3 parts to love and that there are different types of love.  In Sternberg's triangular theory of love the three parts are commitment, intimacy, and passion.  The "feeling" part is the passion of romantic attraction.  But this doesn't work well for other types of love such as brotherly love or charitable love or motherly love.  But it does if the primary triangle is commitment, intimacy, and other types of passion or strong feelings. And this passion can be cultivated through willing oneself to practice commitment and intimacy.